Holiday with Family: Conversation Starters

A Gospel-Shaped Way to Reflect Together
One simple way to guide meaningful conversation with your family is to follow the shape of God’s story—Creation, Fall, Redemption, and Glorification. It’s a gentle rhythm that helps us name the good, be honest about the hard, notice God’s work, and look forward with hope. Below are a few easy questions in each part of that story. You can use them around the table, in the car, or during a quiet moment this Thanksgiving to help you see your lives through the larger story God is writing.
One simple way to guide meaningful conversation with your family is to follow the shape of God’s story—Creation, Fall, Redemption, and Glorification. It’s a gentle rhythm that helps us name the good, be honest about the hard, notice God’s work, and look forward with hope. Below are a few easy questions in each part of that story. You can use them around the table, in the car, or during a quiet moment this Thanksgiving to help you see your lives through the larger story God is writing.
Extended Family
CREATION — Good things, fun things, positive energy
- What’s the best thing you ate this year?
- What’s a random moment from the past year that still makes you laugh or smile?
- What’s something good that happened this year that you didn’t see coming?
FALL — Real life, normal frustrations, shared humanity
- What’s something this year that made you say, “Well… that was a lot”?
- What’s the most unexpected challenge you had to deal with (funny or serious)?
- What’s one thing that was harder than you expected but shaped you in some way?
REDEMPTION — Things getting better, kindness, small wins
- What’s a small win you had this year that deserves a celebration?
- Who surprised you with kindness or encouragement?
- What’s something in your life that has slowly gotten better this year?
GLORIFICATION — Hopes, the future, desire, looking forward
- What’s something you’re excited about or looking forward to in the next few months?
- What’s a place you’d love to visit or a hobby you want to try next year?
- What’s one hope you carry for the coming year?
- What’s the best thing you ate this year?
- What’s a random moment from the past year that still makes you laugh or smile?
- What’s something good that happened this year that you didn’t see coming?
FALL — Real life, normal frustrations, shared humanity
- What’s something this year that made you say, “Well… that was a lot”?
- What’s the most unexpected challenge you had to deal with (funny or serious)?
- What’s one thing that was harder than you expected but shaped you in some way?
REDEMPTION — Things getting better, kindness, small wins
- What’s a small win you had this year that deserves a celebration?
- Who surprised you with kindness or encouragement?
- What’s something in your life that has slowly gotten better this year?
GLORIFICATION — Hopes, the future, desire, looking forward
- What’s something you’re excited about or looking forward to in the next few months?
- What’s a place you’d love to visit or a hobby you want to try next year?
- What’s one hope you carry for the coming year?
Friendsgiving
(Light → fun → meaningful → hopeful)
1. What’s the best new thing you tried this year — food, hobby, show, recipe, place, anything?
2. What’s something small from the past month that brought you joy?
3. What’s a funny or unexpected moment from this year that you still think about?
4. What’s something you learned about yourself this year — serious or silly?
5. Who’s someone (inside or outside this room) who made your year better?
6. What’s something that strengthened your friendships or community this year?
7. What’s a moment from this year that made you say, “I really needed that”?
8. What’s a challenge you faced this year that your friends helped you carry?
9. What’s a way you’ve grown — emotionally, spiritually, relationally — that you’re thankful for?
10. What’s something God has been teaching you lately or drawing your attention to?
11. Where have you sensed God’s presence, kindness, or guidance this fall?
12. What’s a prayer that’s been on your heart in this season?
13. What’s something you're hoping for in the next year — in your friendships, your walk with God, or everyday life?
14. What’s a goal or dream you’d love to pursue with the support of friends?
15. What’s something you want to celebrate together before the year ends?
16. What’s one way we can pray for or encourage each other this week?
1. What’s the best new thing you tried this year — food, hobby, show, recipe, place, anything?
2. What’s something small from the past month that brought you joy?
3. What’s a funny or unexpected moment from this year that you still think about?
4. What’s something you learned about yourself this year — serious or silly?
5. Who’s someone (inside or outside this room) who made your year better?
6. What’s something that strengthened your friendships or community this year?
7. What’s a moment from this year that made you say, “I really needed that”?
8. What’s a challenge you faced this year that your friends helped you carry?
9. What’s a way you’ve grown — emotionally, spiritually, relationally — that you’re thankful for?
10. What’s something God has been teaching you lately or drawing your attention to?
11. Where have you sensed God’s presence, kindness, or guidance this fall?
12. What’s a prayer that’s been on your heart in this season?
13. What’s something you're hoping for in the next year — in your friendships, your walk with God, or everyday life?
14. What’s a goal or dream you’d love to pursue with the support of friends?
15. What’s something you want to celebrate together before the year ends?
16. What’s one way we can pray for or encourage each other this week?
Conversation with Children
CREATION — Good gifts, joy, things that made life bright
Little Kid Questions
- If you could invite any animal to Thanksgiving, which one would you pick and what would it eat?
- What’s the silliest thing that happened to you this year?
- What’s something God made that you really enjoy?
- What’s one happy memory from this year that you’d put in a “treasure box”?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something from this year that surprised you in a good way?
- What moment from this year made you genuinely smile or feel joy?
- Where did you experience something that felt like a good gift?
- What’s one thing you’re grateful our family got to do together this year?
FALL — Hard moments, disappointment, frustration, real life
Little Kid Questions
- If you had a “frustration sound,” what would it be?
- What’s one thing this year that was hard or didn’t go how you hoped?
- What made you feel sad, left out, or frustrated this year?
- What’s one chore, rule, or responsibility that felt extra tough?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something that stretched you more than you expected?
- Where did you bump into disappointment or discouragement this year?
- What’s one moment you’d go back and redo if you could?
- What’s something from this year you’d appreciate prayer or support for?
REDEMPTION / RECONCILIATION — Help, growth, kindness, healing
Little Kid Questions
- If kindness were a superpower, what would your superhero name be?
- Who was really kind to you this year?
- What’s something you learned or got better at recently?
- Can you think of a time you felt helped, comforted, or braver than you thought?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- Who encouraged you in a way that really mattered?
- What’s something that improved or healed over the year — big or small?
- Where did you see growth in yourself that you’re thankful for?
- Was there a relationship or situation that moved in a better direction?
GLORIFICATION — Hope, desire, imagination, future longing
Little Kid Questions
- If you could invent a holiday, what would we celebrate?
- Where would our “dream family adventure” be?
- What’s something you’re excited about in the next year?
- What’s one thing you’d love to learn or try as you grow?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something you’re hoping for in the coming year?
- What’s one area where you’d love to grow or mature?
- What’s a dream, long-term or short-term, that matters to you?
- If you could ask God for one thing in the next season, what would it be?
Little Kid Questions
- If you could invite any animal to Thanksgiving, which one would you pick and what would it eat?
- What’s the silliest thing that happened to you this year?
- What’s something God made that you really enjoy?
- What’s one happy memory from this year that you’d put in a “treasure box”?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something from this year that surprised you in a good way?
- What moment from this year made you genuinely smile or feel joy?
- Where did you experience something that felt like a good gift?
- What’s one thing you’re grateful our family got to do together this year?
FALL — Hard moments, disappointment, frustration, real life
Little Kid Questions
- If you had a “frustration sound,” what would it be?
- What’s one thing this year that was hard or didn’t go how you hoped?
- What made you feel sad, left out, or frustrated this year?
- What’s one chore, rule, or responsibility that felt extra tough?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something that stretched you more than you expected?
- Where did you bump into disappointment or discouragement this year?
- What’s one moment you’d go back and redo if you could?
- What’s something from this year you’d appreciate prayer or support for?
REDEMPTION / RECONCILIATION — Help, growth, kindness, healing
Little Kid Questions
- If kindness were a superpower, what would your superhero name be?
- Who was really kind to you this year?
- What’s something you learned or got better at recently?
- Can you think of a time you felt helped, comforted, or braver than you thought?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- Who encouraged you in a way that really mattered?
- What’s something that improved or healed over the year — big or small?
- Where did you see growth in yourself that you’re thankful for?
- Was there a relationship or situation that moved in a better direction?
GLORIFICATION — Hope, desire, imagination, future longing
Little Kid Questions
- If you could invent a holiday, what would we celebrate?
- Where would our “dream family adventure” be?
- What’s something you’re excited about in the next year?
- What’s one thing you’d love to learn or try as you grow?
Teen-Friendly Questions
- What’s something you’re hoping for in the coming year?
- What’s one area where you’d love to grow or mature?
- What’s a dream, long-term or short-term, that matters to you?
- If you could ask God for one thing in the next season, what would it be?
Unbelieving Friends/Family
(Light → meaningful → curiosity-building)
1. What’s something this year that made you unexpectedly happy?
2. Have you found a hobby, show, book, or place lately that you’ve enjoyed more than you expected?
3. What’s a moment from this year that made you smile or laugh?
4. What’s something you’ve been learning about or thinking a lot about recently?
5. What’s one thing that’s brought you a real sense of meaning or joy this year?
6. What’s something this year that genuinely surprised you — in a good or bad way?
7. What’s a moment where you thought, “Wow… life is a lot sometimes”?
8. What’s been challenging lately, and what do you think made it feel that way?
9. Did anything this year make you question or rethink something you used to assume?
10. What’s a small win or encouraging moment that helped brighten your year?
11. Who has shown you kindness or helped you when you needed it?
12. What’s one way you’ve grown or changed this year that you’re actually grateful for?
13. When things felt heavy or confusing, what helped you move forward?
14. What’s something you’re looking forward to in the next few months?
15. If time and money weren’t an issue, what’s something you’d love to try or pursue?
16. What’s a hope or longing you carry for the coming season?
17. What’s a dream you hold that you wish people understood better?
18. What experiences have shaped the way you see the world?
19. When life gets complicated, what helps you make sense of things?
20. When you think about what really matters in life, what rises to the top for you?
21. What’s something you wish people who think differently from you understood about your perspective?
22. What values guide you when you’re making important decisions?
1. What’s something this year that made you unexpectedly happy?
2. Have you found a hobby, show, book, or place lately that you’ve enjoyed more than you expected?
3. What’s a moment from this year that made you smile or laugh?
4. What’s something you’ve been learning about or thinking a lot about recently?
5. What’s one thing that’s brought you a real sense of meaning or joy this year?
6. What’s something this year that genuinely surprised you — in a good or bad way?
7. What’s a moment where you thought, “Wow… life is a lot sometimes”?
8. What’s been challenging lately, and what do you think made it feel that way?
9. Did anything this year make you question or rethink something you used to assume?
10. What’s a small win or encouraging moment that helped brighten your year?
11. Who has shown you kindness or helped you when you needed it?
12. What’s one way you’ve grown or changed this year that you’re actually grateful for?
13. When things felt heavy or confusing, what helped you move forward?
14. What’s something you’re looking forward to in the next few months?
15. If time and money weren’t an issue, what’s something you’d love to try or pursue?
16. What’s a hope or longing you carry for the coming season?
17. What’s a dream you hold that you wish people understood better?
18. What experiences have shaped the way you see the world?
19. When life gets complicated, what helps you make sense of things?
20. When you think about what really matters in life, what rises to the top for you?
21. What’s something you wish people who think differently from you understood about your perspective?
22. What values guide you when you’re making important decisions?
Immediate Family
CREATION
- What is one good thing from this year that you’re thankful for?
- What’s a moment or memory from the past year that still makes you smile?
- Where have you seen God’s goodness or creativity show up in your life recently?
- What’s something in our family that you want to name as a gift from God?
FALL
- What was something hard for you this year?
- What’s been stressful or draining this fall?
- Where have you felt the effects of brokenness—either in yourself, relationships, or circumstances?
- Is there something from this past year that you’d like prayer for or healing from?
REDEMPTION / RECONCILIATION
- Where have you seen God help you this year?
- What’s a small way God has encouraged you recently?
- Where have you experienced reconciliation, forgiveness, or unexpected grace?
- Is there a place where you’ve sensed God growing or changing you?
GLORIFICATION
- What are you hoping for in the next season?
- What’s something you’re looking forward to?
- Where do you sense God inviting you to trust Him more as you look ahead?
- What’s a prayer or longing on your heart for the coming year?
- What is one good thing from this year that you’re thankful for?
- What’s a moment or memory from the past year that still makes you smile?
- Where have you seen God’s goodness or creativity show up in your life recently?
- What’s something in our family that you want to name as a gift from God?
FALL
- What was something hard for you this year?
- What’s been stressful or draining this fall?
- Where have you felt the effects of brokenness—either in yourself, relationships, or circumstances?
- Is there something from this past year that you’d like prayer for or healing from?
REDEMPTION / RECONCILIATION
- Where have you seen God help you this year?
- What’s a small way God has encouraged you recently?
- Where have you experienced reconciliation, forgiveness, or unexpected grace?
- Is there a place where you’ve sensed God growing or changing you?
GLORIFICATION
- What are you hoping for in the next season?
- What’s something you’re looking forward to?
- Where do you sense God inviting you to trust Him more as you look ahead?
- What’s a prayer or longing on your heart for the coming year?
